Hi everyone, Dirk’s back. This week he’s taking on a fragile topic: Does penis size really matter and how the experience is different for gay males? Here’s Dirk:
“Last week Penelope asked the age old question: Does size matter? Now I can’t speak for every straight woman and gay man, but from personal experience, yes – size does matter. Now before my less-endowed male friends crucify me, let me clarify that statement.
I have never been satisfied by a small penis – ever. In fact I don’t think it’s possible (I’ve made it a habit to not even touch them) and I won’t find out anytime soon because my boyfriend is the largest I’ve seen, other than in porn, but they are all huge. I also think it’s important to explain why size is an issue and an issue that differs from orientation.
My best friend, a straight female, has never asked a guy what size his penis is, and could care less about it because it isn’t important to her; however, she admits that if she knew a guy were small, she wouldn’t pursue anything sexual with him, and I don’t blame her. The issue doesn’t come up with my straight friends, but, it seems to always creep into conversation with gay men. Again I can only speak from my interesting sexual journey.
Based on my unfortunate experiences with small penises, everyone – whether gay or straight – should establish their own guidelines before engaging in sexual activities (always protected of course). I want to share three of mine that I swear by:
1. If you know you are small, don’t lie about it. This guy once told me he was so big I wouldn’t know what to do with it. Now this was back in high school when I was still new to sex. Back then I didn’t care about penis size, but after reaching down and feeling what had to have been 3 inches – hard – I didn’t know what else to do. I liked the guy so I went through with it, but to this day I still can’t remember if he was ever in me or not.
2. If an explanation precedes a sexual encounter, run. This happened last year. I had some experience and at this point and couldn’t tolerate the tiny weenies. After a night of awkward flirting, I took this guy back to my room and there I got the explanation. Something along the lines of birth defect, blah, blah, blah. After seeing what is officially the smallest penis in my life – barely two inches erect – not only did I laugh in my mind, but I all of a sudden I had an exam to study for, or at least that was the best lie I could foster off the top of my head.
3. You must be at least 6 inches to ride this ride. According to statistics provided by The Alfred C. Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, the average penis size is 6 inches. I figure I can’t go wrong with that.
Now I know what some of you are saying, ‘What if you are really into a guy?’ If I have already connected with a guy on other levels, I could care less about the size of his penis. So for all those ‘it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion off the ocean’ men, I applaud you, because I’ve rocked the row boat a few times, but I prefer to sail a cruise ship.
Let’s hear what a reader has to say:
Tiffany writes, ‘Hell no, size doesn’t matter. There was a guy in high school that had the biggest disappointment a girl can look at, a nearly 3 inch penis. He told me not to worry. I opened my eyes and tried to sit up slightly, but I couldn’t move. At that moment I realized he wasn’t performing oral anymore, but I couldn’t tell the difference between his tongue and his penis. I had my first orgasm.’
Tiffany makes a great point, but I personally have a better climax through intercourse and not through oral, that plus men don’t close their eyes during sex (we like to look and feel). Now I’m not knocking Tiffany, but if you can’t tell the difference between an erect penis and a wet tongue, something is very wrong.”
I want to hear from you. Next week’s question: What’s the best way to rebound after a break up? E-mail answers to me at [email protected].
